This was not a mistake.
You attempted to balance the teams with !t, they were +60 difference which is within the 40-80 difference that requires two players to type !t, !teams, or teams to have the balancer make a switch. No other player typed teams so you went to spec waited for teams to be changed then returned. Once you returned, you tried to switch to the winning team with !r. You were prevented from making that switch using the !r command so then you decided to use the ut menus to force the change. A clear case of team manipulation. As a player, you do not get to decide when players are switched nor do you get to force players to be switched beyond typing !teams.
You also don't decide how the rules are interpreted and enforced on the forum. This is the last time I will tolerate you bringing up your NSFW complaint in a thread not related to forum rules. Again, if you want to discuss that start a thread about it.
This thread has obviously run its course and gone off topic twice so it will now be closed. Feel free to start another thread on your connection issues if you wish but please ask yourself privately and give yourself an honest answer of what your actual goal is first: To fix connection issues or to attempt to prove that the server is the problem then title the new thread accordingly, if you choose to make one.